The REAL Reason Men Don’t Have Time (and Why It’s BULLSH*T)
👉 “I don’t have time.”
👉 “I’m too busy.”
👉 “I have too many responsibilities.”
Sound familiar?
Yeah, we’ve heard it before.
Hell, we’ve ALL said it before.
But here’s the thing…It’s complete BULLSH*T.
If you’re reading this and feeling called out — good. This might be uncomfortable, but stick with me, because this could be the most important wake-up call of your life.
"If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way.
If not, you’ll find an excuse." — Ryan Blair
Why We (Men) Tell Ourselves We “Don’t Have Time” (And Why It’s a Lie)
On the surface, it sounds reasonable, right?
“I’m swamped with work.”
“I’ve got kids, bills, and responsibilities.”
“I’ll get to it later when things slow down.”
But when has 'later' ever actually come?
Here’s the real reason you feel "too busy":
👉 You’re afraid of the hard work.
👉 You’re afraid to face yourself.
👉 You’re afraid of change.
We don’t talk about this enough, but the truth is that most men aren’t "too busy"—they’re too scared to step into the arena.
Because stepping into the arena means doing uncomfortable work. It means confronting your health, your relationships, your purpose, and your legacy. It means looking at your life and admitting, “I’m not where I want to be, and it’s my fault.”
And that’s not easy.
So, instead of stepping into the arena, you tell yourself,
“I don’t have time.”
Because it’s easier to stay busy.
It's easier to grind at work.
It’s easier to bury yourself in your job, your training, and your busy schedule.
But ask yourself this:
👉 Is all that “busyness” actually moving you closer to the life you want?
👉 Or is it just a distraction to avoid doing the REAL work?
"The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it." — Jordan Belfort
Why Men in Midlife Take the Easy Path (Instead of the Path They Actually Want)
It’s simple.
The easy path gives you instant wins.
It gives you the illusion of progress.
✔️ Check your emails — you feel "productive."
✔️ Answer work calls — you feel "needed."
✔️ Stay busy — you feel "in control."
But here’s what you’re really doing: You’re avoiding the uncomfortable path.
The uncomfortable path is the one where you ask yourself hard questions like:
“Am I living in alignment with my values?”
“If I keep living like this, what kind of man will I be in 10 years?”
“What am I afraid to face right now?”
The easy path keeps you feeling safe.
The uncomfortable path exposes you.
But the uncomfortable path is where you grow.
Here’s the truth: If you don’t confront your fears now, you WILL confront them later.
But it won’t be on your terms.
It’ll be at the doctor’s office.
It’ll be during a health crisis.
It’ll be when your relationships start to fall apart.
Either way, you will face it.
So, ask yourself — do you want to face it NOW, while you still have control? Or do you want to be forced to face it later, when you have none?
Your Actions Don’t Reflect Your Desires (And Here’s Why)
If I asked you right now:
👉 Do you want to be healthy? You’d say YES.
👉 Do you want to live with purpose and fulfillment? You’d say YES.
👉 Do you want to be a role model for your kids? You’d say YES.
But here’s the problem: Your actions don’t match your words.
You say you want to be healthy…
But you skip workouts, stay up late, and scroll social media instead of sleeping or spending quality time with your loved ones.
You say you want purpose and fulfillment…
But you keep working a job you hate because it’s "safe."
You say you want to be present for your family…
But you miss moments with them because you’re "too busy" answering work emails.
👉 Why is that?
Because saying what you want is easy.
But living in alignment with those desires? That requires boundaries, discipline, and courage.
But you already know this.
You feel it.
So the real question is…
How much longer are you going to keep living out of alignment?
“A man who wants something will find a way.
A man who doesn’t will find an excuse.” — Jim Rohn
How to Change (And Stop Lying to Yourself About Time)
So how do you stop telling yourself you “don’t have time”?
Here’s the first step:
👉 Call BULLSH*T on your own excuses.
Next time you say, “I don’t have time,” challenge it.
Ask yourself:
“What discomfort am I trying to avoid right now?”
“Am I afraid of failing, being seen, or not having control?”
“If I had to face this task no matter what, how would I do it?”
Procrastination isn’t about time. It’s about avoidance.
Here’s the second step:
👉 Decide who you want to become.
Look 10 years into the future.
👉 Who’s the man you want to be?
👉 What’s his health like?
👉 How does he move, think, and live?
Once you have that vision, you need to reverse-engineer it. Start with who you want to be and work backward.
Ask yourself:
👉 “What’s one thing I can do TODAY to move closer to that man?”
Don’t try to overhaul your life overnight.
Don’t aim for perfection.
Just make one small change every day that aligns with that vision.
One meal. One Workout. One night of better sleep. One hard conversation you've been avoiding.
Small wins stack up.
If you do this for a week, you’ll feel progress.
If you do this for a month, you’ll see results.
If you do this for a year, you’ll become unstoppable.
No More Excuses — Step Into the Arena
Here’s the truth:
👉 The man you’ll be in 10 years is being built RIGHT NOW.
You can either:
1️⃣ Be the man who says, “I’m too busy” — and keep running on the same hamster wheel.
2️⃣ Be the man who steps into the arena — and faces the uncomfortable truth.
If you’re waiting for a sign, this is it.
There’s no perfect time.
There’s no magical day when your schedule clears up.
There’s only NOW.
The arena is open, mate.
And I’m telling you from experience — it’s better to step into it now than to be dragged into it later.
Because here’s the thing about responsibility:
👉 You think it’s the job, the bills, the family.
👉 But the REAL responsibility is becoming the man who shows up for all of that.
You have time.
You just have to take responsibility for how you use it.
If you want support, clarity, and someone to push you — that’s what we do inside TopGun Academy.
This isn’t about doing more.
It’s about doing what matters.
So, what’s it going to be?
👉 Keep saying, “I don’t have time.”
OR
👉 Step into the arena and create the future YOU want.
The man you’ll be in 10 years is being built by the man you are today.
Choose wisely.
