Who Is the Man You’re Becoming?

Most men hit their 40s and 50s running on autopilot. Years of grinding in their careers, providing for their families, and handling responsibilities have shaped them. But somewhere along the way, they stopped leading themselves.

They're stuck in default mode.

The question is: Are you becoming the man you truly want to be?

Or are you drifting, letting time, habits, and circumstances decide for you?

You know you need to make a change. Your energy isn’t what it used to be. Your body is slowing down, the weight isn’t shifting like it did in your 30s, and you catch yourself zoning out on your phone instead of being present with your family.

You tell yourself you’ll get back into shape soon. That you’ll start eating better next week. That things will get better when work calms down.

But deep down, you know the truth.

The years are stacking up, and if you don’t take control now, it’s only going to get harder.

Building and maintaining muscle for men over 40 comes with unique challenges.

Hormonal shifts, changes in metabolism, and lifestyle factors can make it harder to gain and maintain muscle.

This impacts our energy levels, mood, long-term health and vitality.

It can be frustrating and leave us feeling flat.

But here’s the good news: it’s not impossible to build muscle, have more energy and improve you health when your over 40.

In this video, we’ll break down the hurdles and give you actionable strategies to overcome them.

By the end, you’ll have a realistic and achievable guide to maximising muscle growth in your 40s and beyond.

If there’s one simple change that can make a massive impact on your health and longevity in midlife, it’s this: ditch seed oils and upgrade your cooking fats.

You might be wondering, “What’s the big deal with seed oils?”

Here’s the short answer: they’re toxic to your health.

Let’s dig into why and what you can do about it.

Let’s be honest, guys—the idea of "work-life balance" sounds nice, doesn’t it? It’s like some mythical utopia where you can crush it at work, be an all-star dad, maintain a six-pack, and still have time to binge your favorite show on Netflix.

But here’s the thing: Work-Life Balance doesn’t work.

Yep, I said it.

Balance is a myth—especially for men in midlife.

And the harder you try to achieve it, the more frustrated you’ll feel.

So let’s stop pretending we can spin all the plates equally and talk about what actually works: Building Alignment.

👉 “I don’t have time.”

👉 “I’m too busy.”

👉 “I have too many responsibilities.”

Sound familiar?

Yeah, we’ve heard it before.

Hell, we’ve ALL said it before.

But here’s the thing…It’s complete BULLSH*T.

If you’re reading this and feeling called out — good.  This might be uncomfortable, but stick with me, because this could be the most important wake-up call of your life.

In this episode, StreTch and Caspar discuss the intricacies of goal setting, particularly in the context of men's health and fitness. They explore the common pitfalls of traditional goal setting, the importance of understanding emotional drivers behind goals, and the role of coaching in helping clients navigate their challenges.

The conversation emphasizes the need for realistic, achievable goals and the significance of addressing excuses and resistance that clients often face. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they provide valuable strategies for listeners to enhance their goal-setting approach and achieve lasting change. In this conversation, StreTch and Caspar discuss the importance of gradual progress in achieving goals, emphasising the need for sustainable systems rather than quick fixes.

If you’re a man in midlife, chances are you’ve built a life on ambition. It’s how you climbed the career ladder, built a family, or achieved any big goal.

Ambition feels good. It makes you feel like you’re chasing greatness.

But here’s the hard truth: When it comes to health and fitness, ambition can be a trap.

I’ve seen it with so many clients. They set goals that sound impressive:

👉 “I’m going to work out 6 days a week”

👉  “I’m going to overhaul my diet completely starting Monday.”

For the first couple of weeks, they’re on fire 🔥.

They’re crushing workouts, prepping meals, and feeling unstoppable.

Then life happens. Work deadlines hit. Family demands ramp up. Motivation dips.

Let’s talk about something that hits close to home for a lot of us: the grind.

You know, that feeling of always being “on,” juggling work, family, and everything else while wondering where your energy and excitement for life wSign up for the Reclaim Your Edge program hereent.

For men in midlife, the grind can feel like a badge of honor. After all, you’ve worked hard to get here.

But here’s the truth: stress isn’t a badge—it’s a warning sign.

And ignoring it can slowly chip away at your health, relationships, and happiness.